A friend of mine and I have been discussing new relationships. She's a single mom and back in the dating world. As she shares with me some of the angst we women love to put ourselves through when entering new relationships, I assure her she is not alone - we've all done it! We've all questioned every word, every move, every phone call not made. And that is why I love my husband. Because although I did have my moments of weakness when it came to the "make yourself crazy" game, things pretty much fell into place from the moment we met. We met online...on "Plenty of Fish" to be exact. I'm sure a lot of people have stories of online dating horror to share but I am one of the lucky ones. We met in 2007 and married a year later. Next month will be our three year anniversary.
But back to my friend and I...we were discussing a current "friendship" she'd acquired and arguing the good and bad. One of the things I pointed out was how in every new relationship there seems to be that period where you just can't get enough of each other (and I'm not just talking 'bout the boom-boom). I'm talking about that need to just be in each others presence. I can remember hanging out at Shane's while he worked on his truck and him hanging out at my house while I was cleaning the bathroom. We didn't have specific plans, we just wanted to be near each other.
So that brings me to today. This morning Shane and I went downtown to the Saturday Market together. After we got back home I headed off to a Pampered Chef party and left him to his own devices. When I got home, no Shane. After watching the tube for awhile I decided an afternoon nap was in order. Just as I was about to fall asleep Shane comes in with a new ceiling fan for the bedroom (something I'd mentioned I wanted) and informs me he'll be cooking supper tonight. Well honey, you don't have to tell me twice...I'm all about a night off from kitchen duty. He then spent the next hour installing the fan while I laid on the bed watching him. We chatted here and there, joked around and flirted a bit, but there were no deep conversations going on. And I realized that nothing has really changed from our beginning....we still just enjoy "being." And that is the way a relationship should be.
